How to Stop People Pleasing and Prioritise Your Health Instead.
Being a people pleaser often means putting others’ needs before your own, which can lead to burnout and neglecting your health.
If you’re constantly saying “yes” to avoid disappointing others, it’s time to learn how to prioritise your well-being without feeling guilty – and then being able to say “yes” to people with the left-overs.
People pleasing is a behavior pattern where you prioritise others’ needs over your own, often due to a fear of rejection or conflict. While it might seem altruistic, it can lead to stress, anxiety, and physical health issues. By understanding the root causes of your people pleasing, you can begin to address the underlying issues and start making healthier choices.
If you’re always putting others’ needs before your own, your health might decline and you might have these symptoms:
Chronic Stress
Burnout
Anxiety
Denial
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Here’s how I would start to address the behaviour 👇
Recognize Your Patterns: The first step is to acknowledge that you’re a people pleaser. Pay attention to situations where you feel compelled to say “yes”, even though you don’t actually want to do it.
Set Boundaries: Your boundaries are your protection. So what are you trying to protect?? Once you know what you’re protecting, you can recognise what might put those assets at risk. Those risks are your boundaries. Now it’s all about the follow through, so once you’re clear in your boundaries, it’s time to start enforcing them. Practice saying “no” in a polite but firm manner – be honest with them!!
Prioritise Self-Care: Set the time for activities that rejuvenate you. Self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary for your well-being.
Seek Support: Consider working with a health coach or an accountability buddy who can help you develop healthier habits and consistent behaviours.
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By following these steps, you’ll notice several positive changes, including:
• Increased Energy
• Reduced Stress
• Better Relationships
• Improved sense of power!
It’s not bad to be a people pleaser – but it can hurt you if you’re not careful or mindful about it.
By recognizing your patterns and setting boundaries, you can create a healthier, more balanced life. Remember, it’s not selfish to take care of yourself; it’s necessary for your overall happiness and health.
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